I know this comes around a lot but I am getting tired of hearing about social issues dividing us when there is bigger fish to fry in this country. I am meaning about abortion and reproductive rights and gay marriage rights, two very hot topics in this country right now. And I don't want an issue on a person's lifestyle be the trigger that could cause another civil war.
I think that you can be both pro-life and pro choice and here is how one can be like that. You can be legally pro-choice and personallly pro-life. If someone asks another for advice on how to handle an unexpected pregnancy and they advise against abortion, then fine. My issue is when someone tries to legalize various aspects of women's health care thinking that they are serving some higher power on this. Cases like forced transvaginal ultrasound and making doctors describe the fetus to the woman is rather maddening. Are the people making these laws gynocologists or OBGYNs? Are they even women? Most likely, no. I would go to those experts for advise on my uterus, as it is their job. But when you claim to want less government, then that would apply across the board. If you want it out of your gun shop and schools and churches, then it is only fair to get them out of the doctor's office in all branches of practice. Science says the best cases are 23 weeks fetal viabilty outside the womb, but most doctors agree the earliest a baby can be viable outside the womb and have a minimal hindering when it comes to birth defects is 7 months, or about 28 weeks. But even that is not always the case. I was born with a form of epilepsy that manifested in puberty by a brain atrophy that was most likely linked to birth trauma with myconium and the cord around my neck and I was 9 days late. And if you want the woman to carry the fetus to term and keep it, you best help her either adopt off the child easily without being made to feel like a worthless piece of garbage because she deterimned she wasn't the best for the child or provide more support in child care and food stamps and welfare. But they don't want that either. There is options out there other than abortion for unwanted pregnancy, but a scared and confused woman needs facts, not fear or shame. If you aren't her, you don't know her story and you need to bear that in mind. Pro-choice is pro information and pro help. To make a good choice for you you need all the facts with no shame.
And we should inform all young women (I'd say about 15 the latest) of all the birth control options and how it can help in ways other than preventing pregnacy. I waited until I was 21 to get birth control and suffered horribly because of my period. If I was told sooner, I wouldn't have had complications that derailed my life. (And periods make epilepsy worse) but there are people would would call me a slut and whore for taking it. Well, take that from me and then when my PMS kicks in tell me that and I will kick your ass within an inch of your life. PMDD is no fun. ANd if you are a Biblethumper with a penis, don't tell me how my vagina works.
Now the second thing I want to talk about is gay marriage. I live in East KY and thanks to Kim Davis, I can't wait to flee. I know her type. It is a plauge in Applachia that keeps jobs out. She used her "religion" to get out of doing her job and get rich quick. Many people here get strung out on drugs like meth, heroin, weed and pain pills then on Sunday go to church and act like everything is okay. No, it is not. To be Saved, you have to make change in your life. Sure you may slip up now and again, we all do. But now and again is not every day. Employers can't give people here jobs. I get this from talking to said enturopenuers. They try to start a business operation like timber or reclaimation from mines or even a coal mine and they can't get people to work more than one day without stealing tools or failing drug tests. Now this isn't everybody but there is enough of a culture of ignorance and hypocrocy that East KY is avoided by people starting new businesses. West Virginia, Virginia and Pennsylvania and Tennesseee are all improving because their Applachian areas don't do that. But rant aside, it goes towards hypocrocy. People like Kim Davis do not really value straight marriage. She had been married 4 times. If she wanted to get out of them Biblically, she would have to have been cheated on, abused or all of them died. Okay, so if I married 3 other guys and they did that, I would reevaluate my taste in men. But no, she did not have poor taste in men, she had no self control. She was married once, cheated on him and got pregnant by another man, married him (as if that absolves the sin. NOT!) and then divorced him and married again. So obviously she isn't one to talk. But by taking a stand, bigots pay her TONS and she won't have to work again. She isn't stupid, just hiding behind your religion to get paid. If there is one certain business, it is religion.
But then we get back to the if you want government out, it applies across the board. All same sex couples ask is the same legal rights and tax breaks straight couples do. And a woman marrying a man for money is more meaningful than a homosexual couple who had been together for years ANd if someone wants to site Leviticus laws, then they had better not eat shellfish or wear torn jeans or eat blood, wine in church or a myriad of other things. Love bacon? God Hates you. And I am not making that up. So either cherry pick and admit you are mad gay people have more love than your worthless marriage or obey all the Bible as you are not to add or omitt. Religion is man made, thus flawed. I like the idea that you must work hard to be good and only by HIS mercy are you saved. Hell the Pope could not even be good enough in God's eyes. You don't know until you are dead and I would rather go down doing good than being a lame bigoted asshole. And if I am going to fry for eternity, bigotry isn't good enough. I'd have to be in the frozen level or eaten by Satan to be satisifed in evil. (Twisted I know. >
) No one is making you get gay married so get off it.
I think if we took this idea of minding our own business and being legally pro but letting ourselves be personally against if we can't stand the idea we could be okay. ANd being personally against does not let you commit hate crimes. That falls into harming someone and that is not okay. I will harm you for harming someone for no good reason. But we go back to that idea we used to have of Mind Your Own Business (Franklin thought to put it on one of our first pennies
) we can tackle some of the bigger issues like education, wage stagnation and our failure to compete with the rest of the developed world.